Being a mother of two boys is a really tough task when it comes to dealing with two different personalities every day. My younger kid is engaged in every social activity, whereas my elder one is a complete opposite, who likes to keep things to himself. He likes to stay in his arena of books, does not gets down to play. I strongly feel learning how to express and manage feelings and how to get along with others are important life skills. They can help a child develop confidence in his or her self and determine how they fit into the world around them which is why we are sharing a few tips to help your child develop strong emotional and social skills:
Consistency Is The Key
Being a mother you will learn the importance of consistency firsthand through some trial-and-error methods. To make a difference and encourage positive behaviour in your kids you need to lay down some house rules in place.
It is easier for your children to meet the expectations when they are consistent. Letting them know you are noticing the good behaviour makes them want to do well.
Parents should also imbibe the type of behaviour they want their child to show. When your child needs to calm down, support him or her by playing some calming music or helping them find a quiet place.
Build A Bond
As parents, spending even five or ten minutes alone daily with your child is very important and helpful.
Having one-on-one time with parent’s portrays that you love them and value their company.
Talk to your child about your friendships, to help spark conversation and what makes a good friend. Point it out to your child, when you see people caring for each other. It’s essential to talk over uncaring behaviour, too: chat about bullying so your child can identify the signs and help stop it.
Help your child develop decision-making skills.
It is very important to praise them when they exhibit good behaviour, just like you scold them for their mistakes. Guidance and Encouragement often work better than punishment. Converse on how to make responsible and safe decisions. The very first step is to teach your child to think and understand the situation and then act accordingly. If you see your child is about to take a wrong step, assist them to stop and help them make a correct decision. Ask what they could do differently. Inspire them to think about their motivations. We all know that peer pressure is powerful and may lead your child to do something they know is wrong.
Ask your kids about what they are feeling. Listen to them without any judgments, and offer your help and support. Most children will be more trusting if they recognise that you respect their feelings.
Let your kid tell you how he feels, and then check in to make sure you are hearing him. If you are not sure of his/her emotions, you can ask them “It sounds like you’re excited but a little nervous about this. Is that right?”
As a parent, you are your child’s first teacher and have the ability to strongly influence healthy social and emotional development. Age-appropriate conversations will aid your kids to shape their social skills. So does writing about this sort my issues? Not really. I am also a WIP(work-in-progress) parent and while I may know and be aware of the right techniques, applying them to my own kids and my life is still a challenge. Being a parent and writing about parenting seems like two different worlds at times. What you and I can do is apply these techniques to our lives and hope to see them transform.